From The Desk of the Editor

 
Questions from our Readers:

Teri,

It seems that everyone we know is getting divorced these days.
I don't know why.  What do you think about it?  Let me know.  

Wishing you every joy, Joe

 You know the biggest.....the biggest mistake Women
(Mainly American women) make & which endangers/jeapordizes
successful marriage..........after "I do" is
said......the guy is "done for", because the first
mission on the woman's agenda is: "To change the
man" ....To "Tailor-make him" to her specifications......&
in the meantime, not willing to change an iota
herself. Therefore the most vital ingredient of a
successful marriage which is: "Give & take" & flexibility
& compromise........so, the marriage starts off heading
for divorce. In the first place people marry each
other ... for what they really are & also love each
other.......& when one is not willing to accept one that
one married for originally......& desperate mission to
change the partner results in absolute disaster!!!!!!!
So......please get off this "Changing-the man scene
syndrome" if you want your marriage to succeed.........

Thanks & regards.......

DR JIMMY


There are several things that I've been thinking about with the growing rate of couples getting divorced. After my own divorce I began looking at relationships! I've put my focus on the aspects of relationships that seem to be working in relationships.  I love to relate life to dancing, in all relationships, it takes two to Tango!! 

First and foremost is communication.  When we share our feelings we can learn to trust!!  With an emphasis is on the positive, I truly believe that love with flourish

Trust is a huge issue these days.  How do we learn to trust?  I think we listen to our own bodies and become aware of how our partner's body reacts to situations.  Being aware, watching and listening, making an effort.  Trusting our own instincts and intuitions.

Appreciation for the other person ... the big and the small things.  We tend to become comfortable with the love and the gifts of those we love.  Remembering with little notes, a back rub, kind words, admiration, a loving smile, praise, all of those little things that can make a world of difference.

Today, I think there is so much talk about "independence," ... handling things on your own ... two heads are so much better then one.  Plus, I think it opens avenues to explore and can turn a problem into an adventure! 

Playing, that is what I love to watch, couples who know how to play together.  They may have separate interests, yet they know how to enjoy every aspect of the other person.


Editor of Hearts With Soul
Teri Wilber~

 


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